A group of
researchers commissioned by the American Education Research Association says
that efforts to reduce bullying in school are hampered by the overuse and abuse
of the term “bullying” and are calling for it to be replaced by the term
“victimization,” according to a recent report in USA today.
Yeh, right.
. .
When the
Blackwater mercenary army was having image problems they changed their name to
Xe and then again to Academi, innocent sounding names that couldn’t possibly
have any connection with the slaughter of Iraqi civilians or martial law in New
Orleans. Similarly, civilians commonly refer to their problems as “issues,” in
a semantic shell game they hope will make them seem more together. So why not
call bullying victimization and trust that unhappiness and suffering will cease
to be a problem at schools?
The problem,
according to the researchers, is that the term “bullying” is being used to
describe everything from eye rolling to teasing to simply not wanting to be
friends, thus obscuring educators’ ability to identify what is actually
happening and respond appropriately and effectively. One researcher said that
school employees have reported waiting for bullies to repeat their behaviors
before intervening, in accordance with school policies that define bullying as
“repeated” abuse.
They are
correct that the term bullying has become meaningless, but changing the name to
“victimization” will not solve the problem. A teacher who refuses to intervene
in abusive behavior because it doesn’t seem to fit the school’s definition has
other issues (oops, problems) hindering them, like fear of authority,
passiveness, inability or unwillingness to act independently, lack of empathy
or compassion, and/or personal biases. When a child is being taunted or teased,
for example, why should it matter if the behavior fits a school’s definition or
violates its code of conduct? It serves no productive or legitimate purpose at
school, it is often disruptive of the learning environment, and it is likely
making someone feel bad unnecessarily. Thus intervention is the rational and appropriate
response.
There are
many reasons why people victimize each other and why others allow it to happen.
What we call it is not the biggest problem. Teachers may avoid intervening in
an interaction occurring outside their classroom with students whom they do not
know out of fear, or because they do not trust they will be supported by their
administrators, or because they cannot leave their own students unattended, or
because they are so swamped with work they don’t want to be bothered with the
time and potential paperwork involved. Their own biases may prevent them from
intervening (e.g., “boys will be boys” or “that kid is a sissy.”)
Nevertheless,
it is a good thing that someone is challenging the misuse of the term “bullying.”
Rolling eyes, disliking someone, and not being nice may feel disrespectful and
offensive, but they are also relatively innocuous and sometimes reasonable
behaviors and certainly not bullying. It is a lofty goal to expect everyone to always
treat everybody with courtesy and respect, but not everyone is equipped nor
ready to love their all their neighbors, let alone their enemies.
